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Intergenerational Trauma
Certain societal, environmental, biological, and psychological factors can impact us generationally. This may lead us to develop some unhelpful coping responses that can look like certain values or expectations. There can be a mixture of similar and different values and expectations between you, your parents/caregivers, and their parents/caregivers. And some may be ingrained in you and passed down to the next generation and beyond. Therapy can be a safe place for you to explore why intergenerational trauma so deeply impacts your family relationships, emotions, thoughts, and behaviors/choices. Some examples may include:
Example 1: 1st Generation Grandparents - they may strongly hold onto traditional values (e.g. gender roles, strict parenting style) due to war, colonization, poverty, patriarchism, cultural genocide, oppresion, etc.
Example 2: 2nd Generation (Parents/Primary Caregivers) - they may carry traits of stoicism and "pretending to be strong" due to immigration stress, experiences of discrimination, acculturation, identity loss, etc.
Example 3: 3rd Generation (Children/You) - you may now experience anxiety, depression, emotional numbing, identity loss/issues, perfectionism issues, codependency, attachment issues, relationship issues, low self-esteem, approval/validation seeking, low self-esteem, etc.
Some areas in which I can help include:
Anxiety, Depression, Intergenerational Trauma, Perfectionism, Self-Esteem, Stress, Burn Out, Conflict with Parents/Caregivers, and Relational Issues